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Sep 11
5 min

As Death Becomes Us

A meditation about our end-of-life is not the same as being our own Endling. Death is a trickster in traveling shoes. We do our best.

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Dina Stander

Aug 17
1 min

Poem: shout!

sometimes I feel the weight of what is yet to come and instead of pushing it off I open my heart

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Dina Stander

Aug 4
3 min

Waiting for the Drought to Break

There is nothing quite as exquisite as anticipating spine surgery. You know that you will wake up feeling like you got kicked by a horse.

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Prayer to Bless the Earth Receiving Burials at Hart Island

Dina Stander

Apr 20
2 min

Prayer to Bless the Earth Receiving Burials at Hart Island

May each breath be a solace and may remembering bring a blessing.

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Dina Stander

Apr 11
4 min

covid ~ anguish ~ 'last touch'

How to reach for connection when devices can't 'hit the spot'... and you're trying to convey a life time of love through a puny phone.

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Dancing With the Bones: Distanced Grieving

Dina Stander

Apr 7
17 min

Dancing With the Bones: Distanced Grieving

It is ok not to be ok. We are here to companion distanced grieving because human beings are in crisis... so I took my question to the trees.

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Dina Stander

Mar 25
4 min

By Donation/Pay As You Can

I made a decision today, based on my commitment to radical kinship. From now on my services are offered for a pay-what-you-can donation.

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Dina Stander

Mar 23
2 min

Each to their island... March 2020

There is no normal to retreat to. I stop, sit, take a breath and let it go. Wiggle the toes, accept not knowing, do my best and be here now.

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Dina Stander

Feb 27
7 min

Companioning the Dying: say what?

However you embrace or wrastle with your own mortality, companioning the dying will bring you (as my own old dead dad would say) toe to toe

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A Treatise on EOLDs and Sliding Fee Scales

Dina Stander

Feb 20
6 min

A Treatise on EOLDs and Sliding Fee Scales

In a society that commodifies everything, alternative paradigms will sometimes be considered radical. Welcome to my world, Doula friends!

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Dina Stander

Feb 1
2 min

Click Clack

I go out into the cold, stand close to a tall oak and listen to it commune with the cosmos, feeling my smallness to the marrow of my bones.

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Dina Stander

Dec 22, 2019
6 min

Solstice Blues (then & now)

I went looking in my archives for Solstice writing and offer this updated reflection on optimism and coping skills for dark times.

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Dina Stander

Dec 14, 2019
7 min

On Suffering

In which Dina describes to a roundtable of religious colleagues how she (an atheist) makes sense of the human predicament...

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The Opportune Moment and the Phone of the Wind:

Dina Stander

Mar 24, 2019
3 min

The Opportune Moment and the Phone of the Wind:

There is a deep need many people have to keep the ordinary conversation of life going, even though the person they have this conversation wi

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Signs of Life

SUPPORT THAT MAKES A DIFFERENCE

As Death Becomes Us

Poem: shout!

Waiting for the Drought to Break

Prayer to Bless the Earth Receiving Burials at Hart Island

covid ~ anguish ~ 'last touch'

Dancing With the Bones: Distanced Grieving

By Donation/Pay As You Can

Each to their island... March 2020

Companioning the Dying: say what?

A Treatise on EOLDs and Sliding Fee Scales

Click Clack

Solstice Blues (then & now)

On Suffering

The Opportune Moment and the Phone of the Wind: