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Sep 11
5 min

As Death Becomes Us

A meditation about our end-of-life is not the same as being our own Endling. Death is a trickster in traveling shoes. We do our best.

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Dina Stander

Aug 17
1 min

Poem: shout!

sometimes I feel the weight of what is yet to come and instead of pushing it off I open my heart

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Dina Stander

Aug 4
3 min

Waiting for the Drought to Break

There is nothing quite as exquisite as anticipating spine surgery. You know that you will wake up feeling like you got kicked by a horse.

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Dina Stander

Jul 28
3 min

We are all well enough...

I am not a person who harbors fears or overthinks risks. I have been known to throw caution to the winds. I have stepped off the edge and...

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Dina Stander

Apr 25
1 min

poem: all my might

all my might the middle daughter comes to visit she rakes leaves in the yard while I sit nearby but safely far away and we chat about cha...

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Prayer to Bless the Earth Receiving Burials at Hart Island

Dina Stander

Apr 20
2 min

Prayer to Bless the Earth Receiving Burials at Hart Island

May each breath be a solace and may remembering bring a blessing.

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Dina Stander

Apr 11
4 min

covid ~ anguish ~ 'last touch'

How to reach for connection when devices can't 'hit the spot'... and you're trying to convey a life time of love through a puny phone.

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Dancing With the Bones: Distanced Grieving

Dina Stander

Apr 7
17 min

Dancing With the Bones: Distanced Grieving

It is ok not to be ok. We are here to companion distanced grieving because human beings are in crisis... so I took my question to the trees.

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Dina Stander

Mar 25
4 min

By Donation/Pay As You Can

I made a decision today, based on my commitment to radical kinship. From now on my services are offered for a pay-what-you-can donation.

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Dina Stander

Mar 23
2 min

Each to their island... March 2020

There is no normal to retreat to. I stop, sit, take a breath and let it go. Wiggle the toes, accept not knowing, do my best and be here now.

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Dina Stander

Feb 27
7 min

Companioning the Dying: say what?

However you embrace or wrastle with your own mortality, companioning the dying will bring you (as my own old dead dad would say) toe to toe

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A Treatise on EOLDs and Sliding Fee Scales

Dina Stander

Feb 20
6 min

A Treatise on EOLDs and Sliding Fee Scales

In a society that commodifies everything, alternative paradigms will sometimes be considered radical. Welcome to my world, Doula friends!

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HABITS THAT CULTIVATE WELLBEING WHEN EVERYTHING SUCKS:

Dina Stander

Feb 20
6 min

HABITS THAT CULTIVATE WELLBEING WHEN EVERYTHING SUCKS:

We are going to be bent low on the shores of an ocean of sorrow. Here are tips to cultivate resilience to face the fierce wind of our time.

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Dina Stander

Feb 20
8 min

Witnessing a Living Wake

Witnessing a Living Wake: a Celebrant's Perspective As a seasoned funeral professional, the concept of a living wake (or pre-wake wake, o...

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Dina Stander

Feb 1
2 min

Click Clack

I go out into the cold, stand close to a tall oak and listen to it commune with the cosmos, feeling my smallness to the marrow of my bones.

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Dina Stander

Dec 22, 2019
6 min

Solstice Blues (then & now)

I went looking in my archives for Solstice writing and offer this updated reflection on optimism and coping skills for dark times.

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Dina Stander

Dec 14, 2019
7 min

On Suffering

In which Dina describes to a roundtable of religious colleagues how she (an atheist) makes sense of the human predicament...

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Dina Stander

Oct 25, 2019
2 min

Clay, Creativity & Grieving

I had the distinct honor of presenting a collaborative workshop on Creativity and Grieving at the National Home Funeral Alliance conferen...

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Dina Stander

Aug 9, 2019
1 min

poem: I forgot to ask

I forgot to ask (for S. Trudel) Once the dust has settled after a death and the mad rush of deep memory short-films stashed in the way ba...

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To Have the Death You Want ~ Planning Matters As Much As Meditation

Dina Stander

Aug 3, 2019
4 min

To Have the Death You Want ~ Planning Matters As Much As Meditation

(some rambling thoughts on the concept of 'conscious dying', friendship, and time) In the pause before the heat of a summer day I wander ...

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