poem: I forgot to ask
I forgot to ask (for S. Trudel) Once the dust has settled after a death and the mad rush of deep memory short-films stashed in the way...
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Dina Stander
- Aug 3, 2019
- 4 min
To Have the Death You Want ~ Planning Matters As Much As Meditation
(some rambling thoughts on the concept of 'conscious dying', friendship, and time) In the pause before the heat of a summer day I wander...
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Dina Stander
- Jul 26, 2019
- 1 min
Death-Wellness is so much more than 'death-positive'!
Death-Positive this and Positive-Death that: a Movement. Meh. So much about death, dying, and surviving is *not* going to be or feel...
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Dina Stander
- Jul 26, 2019
- 5 min
Celebrants & Ceremony in Response to Climate Grieving:
How is Earth's story calling to you in this time of great change? What opportunities are you offering your community to address the...
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Dina Stander
- May 4, 2019
- 1 min
The World in Faces: photos by Alexander Khimushin
I want you to meet this human being. Because some time in the middle of this last winter I had a day that was too hard to bear. When I...
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Dina Stander
- May 4, 2019
- 1 min
A Day at the Office:
Work today is a story about a memorial service in an old New England church, with the tall windows that let all the light in and simple...
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Dina Stander
- Apr 29, 2019
- 2 min
Standing on the Bridge
The second funeral service I ever wrote and presided at was for an artist who was the family's gay and ex-communicated black sheep. The...
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Dina Stander
- Apr 14, 2019
- 1 min
Poem for Pesach
Pesach, 2016 Here is the thing of it when we are in the narrow place squozen by the pressures of our time there is no thought of...
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Dina Stander
- Apr 11, 2019
- 2 min
Dialing Back the Pain Scale: towards a more effective conversation for pain management.
There I was, sitting in an exam room in a medical office thinking, can I just say fuck you? Because the medical professional taking my...
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Dina Stander
- Apr 5, 2019
- 4 min
An Elefant's Shtam
I read this story from the stage of the Great Falls Word Festival at the Shea Theater, in October, 2018, just days after the fatal...
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Dina Stander
- Mar 23, 2019
- 3 min
The Opportune Moment and the Phone of the Wind:
There is a deep need many people have to keep the ordinary conversation of life going, even though the person they have this conversation wi
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Dina Stander
- Feb 27, 2019
- 1 min
A Candle for R.B.
Someone I care about died. I lit a candle for their soul transition and placed it on my kitchen windowsill, then stood washing pots and...
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Dina Stander
- Oct 7, 2018
- 2 min
The Phone of the Wind on the Road
I took the Phone of the Wind on the road again, this time to Toronto and the International Death Symposium. Every time I bring a new...
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Dina Stander
- Jul 17, 2018
- 1 min
Witnessing a Living Wake, a Celebrant's Perspective
A version of a piece I posted here became a magazine article! published this month in Natural Transitions Magazine. Here is a screen shot...
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Dina Stander
- May 13, 2018
- 3 min
Unspoken: from here to now
Another day at the office: gratitude for the unspoken. Here I am again, pointing out the existence of what is left unsaid. What is swept...
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Dina Stander
- May 10, 2018
- 2 min
cups of sorrow thrown into the ocean
I sit to watch the sea and for the comfort of wiggling my toe in the sand. I am done throwing cups of sorrow into the ocean...
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Dina Stander
- Apr 30, 2018
- 2 min
On Radical Kinship, Loss, & Suzy P.
Most of us have heard of that rare person who sees the worth in us even during the worst moments of our existence; even those gutter...
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Dina Stander
- Apr 30, 2018
- 2 min
Death, let's talk about it.
In my work as an End-of-life Navigator and Funeral Celebrant I hear the early stories families tell when someone has died. Sometimes...
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Dina Stander
- Apr 30, 2018
- 2 min
A grateful April pause:
This April photo was taken two years ago, a few weeks before I knew I was going to need another round of major spine surgeries. I had...
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Dina Stander
- Nov 14, 2017
- 2 min
TODAY'S OFFICE: ANOTHER IN A SERIES OF CELEBRANT REFLECTIONS
A spot in the woods by running water, and another spot in the woods at the top of a knoll; a farm in New England on a windless and slate...
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